Dear Angry Social Media Venters;
We certainly live in a great age, don’t we? From any device, anywhere, we have the freedom to speak our minds and beam our seat-of-the-pants thoughts out into the cyber world. So quick, so easy, and the cost to ourselves? Nada! It’s intoxicating the unbridled power, is it not? It’s like being able to eat the entire chocolate cake and fancy frosting rosettes without gaining an ounce! Shivers!
However, when I am in the middle of dashing off that hostile comment (Giants, you’re SERIOUSLY killing me this season), or a review (I mean is that REALLY how Gone Girl was supposed to end????) this little voice in my head says, “Just because you CAN say it, doesn’t mean you should.” Well why not? Chocolate cake, as we discussed before, and no weight gain! I mean…
But…my little voice reminds me as I finger the ‘submit’ button for my scathing sports remark (Giants, seriously, torture baseball again?), that there is always a cost to angry words. Could it be that the other sports fans have feelings, even DODGERS fans? Could these players that are disappointing me actually have families, fathers, children? Might it be that an author READS their reviews of the books they sweated blood and tears over, even NY Times bestselling authors? (Surely they lost any kind of feelings once they hit that level, right?)
Bottom line, my words can fan anger into more anger, can make me feel powerful in the venting of it, but at the same time, cost me something at the soul level, in the diminishing of another to encourage myself. I think, for this moment, I will hit the delete button instead.
Blog readers…what do you think we can do to harness the incredible power of social media to encourage instead of discourage?
Posted by Bob duPont on July 8, 2017 at 4:35 am
Excellent commentary! Reminds me of a point someone made years ago. Think of how it will sound right after…”Ladies and Gentlemen of the Jury”! It might not sound like it was such a great thing for your jury to hear!
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Posted by dana mentink on July 8, 2017 at 6:46 am
That’s a good one! I am going to remember that one!
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Posted by susanmsj on July 7, 2017 at 10:19 pm
I agree. Just because you can say something doesn’t mean you should. And I agree with Ben. If you wouldn’t say something to someone’s face, don’t be saying it on social media.
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Posted by dana mentink on July 7, 2017 at 10:22 pm
Amen to that, sister!
Dana Mentink, national bestselling fiction author http://www.danamentink.com
Therefore as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Col 3:12
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Posted by Ben Ezard on July 7, 2017 at 8:13 pm
People are sometimes far ruder online than they would be in person. The old saying ‘if you haven’t got anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all” holds true.
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Posted by dana mentink on July 7, 2017 at 8:50 pm
I completely agree, Ben. Thanks for the comment. 🙂
Dana Mentink, national bestselling fiction author http://www.danamentink.com
Therefore as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Col 3:12
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Posted by Ben Ezard on July 8, 2017 at 3:58 am
Do not leave any debt outstanding other than the continuing debt of love. 🙂
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